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In Hindsight: All It Takes Is You

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My neighbor and I were talking a few days ago about gay marriage. She is gay and lives with her partner next door. She believes strongly that gay marriage should be legalized.

I said, “No. No one should have to ask permission from anyone else to get married. If two people want to marry, they should be able to go out and do it. It’s no one else’s business, and the government has no right to say either way.” Actually, I don’t remember exactly what was said word for word, but I said something to the effect that “people should be able to make their own choices, and there should be no government telling us what to do or how we are allowed to live.”

She said, “That will NEVER happen.”

I immediately backed down (a bad habit of mine that I want to break), and said, “No, it won’t, but it should,” or something lame like that.

Here’s what I wish I had said: I can’t predict what will happen in the future, but here’s what IS happening right now. There are more and more people out there who are doing their best to live their lives AS IF government didn’t exist. It doesn’t take a vote, majority rule, laws, or “might makes right” to bring about change in this world. It just takes individual people making their own choices and living their own lives. All it takes is you — “being the change you wish to see in the world” (Ghandi).

If you want to be a “legally married” gay person, however, at this time you will need the approval of those in government. Personally, I’m beginning to think that any choice that requires government sanction, like marriage, may not be all that it’s cracked up to be. Perhaps it would be better to choose to live without such things altogether. The cost to one’s self — in legitimizing the power of others to control your choices — is too great.

I’m going to start using this blog to post random thoughts on voluntaryism, unschooling, and other topics and ideas that I want to get straight in my head.


Written by cherapple

30 December, 2009 at 1:00 am

Posted in In Hindsight